Inner biases
As we live , we learn. Human emotions and behavior is so complex that nobody is accurately able to deduce how someone will react in a certain situation. We each come with our own personal issues and baggage's which make each of us to react differently to the same situation.
My own reaction to few things in last few years made me reflect inside myself. As I said, as we live, we learn more and correct more. I had a initial bias against my new manager who was young and was fed with similar bias all around. And now don’t get me wrong, I rarely disrespect anyone or let it effect my work, but I was unable to build that connect which I usually have with most my managers.
And here comes inner reflection on my own reaction, as i am pretty stoic natured wrt the work related changes. As I reflected more, I realized that my biases were mostly my own insecurities and age old “how things should be” in general. I spoke to one of my mentors who advised me not allow my biases cloud my work relationship, as everything and everyone in life teaches you something.
And when I let of my biases go and spoke openly and focused on building relationships. It just felt freeing and helped me build a better relationship and was a great experience. Life leaves its own impressions and people leave their own impressions on us. Unconscious bias describes situations where our background, personal experiences, societal stereotypes and cultural context can impact our decisions and actions without us realising. How many of us have unduly and unknowingly experienced or perpetrated the negative forces of unconscious bias?
Unfortunately not everyone realizes and has time for self reflection. Sometimes these manifest as self destructing behaviour. As i said, we live we learn. I stand corrected and hopefully humbler from my experiences.
